AITA for telling my mom to stop calling me her “miracle baby” in front of my infertile sister?

Ever since I can remember, my mom has always introduced me as her “miracle baby.”

I was born after she had a bunch of miscarriages. I get that it was probably traumatizing and I’m not trying to take that away from her. But I’m 27 now. It still comes up every single family gathering.

Weddings, birthdays, funerals—it’s always “this is my miracle baby,” like I’m some damn holy relic. My sister, Sarah, who’s 34, has been trying to have a kid for the last five years with no success. She’s done IVF, hormones, even considered adoption, but nothing’s worked so far.

And every time my mom drops the “miracle baby” line, I see Sarah’s face. She either stiffens up or excuses herself to go to the bathroom. It’s painful to watch.

Things Got Weird Fast

Last weekend was Father’s Day and we were all at my parents’ house. Mom’s cousin was there, and of course, as soon as I walk in, Mom goes, “And here’s my miracle baby! I still thank God every day.”

I looked at Sarah and she just froze. Didn’t even make eye contact.

So I finally snapped. I said, “Mom, can you please stop calling me that in front of Sarah? It’s not fair to her.”

She looked completely taken aback, like I’d just punched her in the gut. My dad gave me the “not now” look and tried to change the subject.

But Mom didn’t let it go. She pulled me aside later and said I embarrassed her. That I should be grateful she sees me as a miracle. That she’s proud of me and I’m diminishing her trauma by asking her to stop.

Sarah hasn’t said a word about it, but I got a text from my aunt saying I need to apologize to my mom and “remember everything she went through for you.”

I do feel kind of bad. I know I was born after a lot of pain. I am grateful. But I just feel like maybe it’s time to retire the miracle narrative, or at least not bring it up in front of someone who’s clearly hurting.

So… AITA?